These rules are established for the comfort and enjoyment of all our members. We ask that if you know of someone breaking any of them, please let them know in a gentle but firm manner. Some of these may seem very familiar if you have read the etiquette page. They may not be aware of the rule, and a little courtesy goes a long way. If they become rude, or otherwise indicate that they cannot or will not comply, please get hold of one of the staff members. We will resolve the situation. We are all here to have a good time and enjoy both ourselves and others, but we can't do that without some common ground.
1.) "NO MEANS NO!": This is probably the foundation of or lifestyle. Very basically, the right to say "Yes" is accompanied by the right to say "No". Further explanation is neither necessary nor required. Don't be afraid to be firm. Be polite, but be firm. Unfortunately, if you are not clear in your statement, you may be giving another person or couple the wrong impression. Face it, many guys don't understand or take "hints" too well. Although you know what you mean, there are some people who only understand "NO!".
2.) No DRUGS!: We have a ZERO tolerance policy on this. Obviously, we cannot allow either the use or possession of any controlled substance on premises. We will not debate this issue at all. What you do on your property is your business, but you don't do it here! No alcohol is sold on the premises of Klub Layden. Please do not drink excessively or we may be forced to ask you to leave.
3.) No Prostitution!: There will be no selling of services of any kind on the club premises. If caught soliciting, you will be removed from the club and the local authorities will be notified. No questions asked.
4.) Couch Area's and Theme Rooms: No smoking in the lounge rooms or the theme rooms. This rule is to protect the sofa's, love seats and theme rooms for obvious reasons. We all want to have a "Hot time", but let's face it, that's not the kind of heat we want! Don't monopolize the theme rooms. We need to keep the theme rooms for partying until after 3:00 a.m. The facilities are here for everyone's use, but they are not unlimited. Let's be polite. If you need to get some sleep, we have couches, blankets and pillows available in the very back couch area. When using the furniture, be it bed or chair, we need to ask that if you are not dressed, please place a sheet or towel between your bottom and our cushions. If you are planning on staying over with us you need to let us know in the office when you arrive for the evening. As long as we have space available, we are only too happy to have you stay and party all night. Quiet time begins at 3:00 a.m. feel free to continue to play, but be respectful of those trying to sleep.
5.) Respect!: This rule is very simple. If you see someone that you are attracted to and that person is part of a couple. Don't just approach that one person. Respect that they are part of a couple and speak with both parties. Ignoring one or the other in a couple is not the way to enjoy the evening. Likely you will find yourself not appreciated for the really nice person you might well be.
6.) DJ's The Klub house DJ's spin their music up until 1:00 a.m. taking requests. After 1:00 a.m. they may choose to play longer. If not one of the staff will load the CD players with a variety of slower, quieter music until 3 a.m. when quiet time begins. No requests are taken at that time. Harassing of the DJ's will not be tolerated. Do not enter the DJ stand without permission and never ever touch the equipment or CDs that may be in it.
7.) Cameras, recording devices, cellphones: No cameras or recording devices of any kind are allowed on premises. This is for the protection of all of our members and their right to privacy. This is the primary reason that no one is permitted to carry bags, purses, or coats inside of the club. All items must be placed into a locker. No cell phones are permitted on inside of the club. If you need it on due to children, we do have a couple of options available to you. You can have the phone checked into the office and should it ring one of the Krew will happily come and get you. Feel free to speak to one of the staff in the office to find out more about these. Don't forget to pick up your phone on the way out!
8.) No Weapons: No weapons of any kind will be tolerated on premises of Klub Layden. If you are found with such not only will the weapon be removed but so will you from the premises.
It is said "The lifestyle will make a good relationship wonderful and is no place for an unhealthy relationship." Constant & Fundamental Rules include: Safe and Consensual: At Klub Layden we operate beneath this statement. Everything at all times must be safe and consensual between consenting adults. No means No! No matter how it is said, or implied. If in question, ask. Stop immediately. Go no further. Communication, and respect for people's limitations. No does not mean maybe, does not mean slow down it means absolutely stop right now. Do no harm! This simple phrase says it all. Common Courtesy is the rule. If you choose to party with others, or not, please do not forget the club policies. Do not ever attempt to bring harm to any member, guest of staff member inside or on Klub Premises. We will handle the situations if they ever arise. About Rejection: It is tough but if it happens to you please accept it and move on. Not everyone is everyone else's cup of tea. What you may find attractive another may not. So keep dignity about yourself and politely remove yourself from the situation. The Lifestyle is self-regulated: We are each and all responsible for guests, our club, and ourselves. The more experienced you become the more you will be able to recognize if something is amiss. If you are bothered by something or have a question find a staff member to check it out, explain it to you, or make changes. It’s ok to ask. If a corrective action needs to be taken, the staff will convey that in an appropriate manner. Never be afraid to approach one of them. They are there for that reason. Customs and Costumes: Clothes and gender usually don't tell you anything about a person's interests, predilections, or experience levels. Unless the party rules specify a dress code, people generally dress however they like to dress. Some people use clothes as flags to signal their interests, but in practice many players that incorporate clothing and costumes into their lifestyle do so as a separate pleasure for themselves. Touching: In some circles, hugging a stranger hello and goodbye is normal watch and see if someone goes to hug you or greet you with a kiss. Friendly touch and hugging way is usually welcomed in Swinging/Lifestyles circles. Just because a woman (or man) is standing nude or partially clothed next to you, getting a soda and smiling, does not make it ok to stroke the person's ass or breast! Ask, and you will often get an indication that it's ok to hug, stoke, fondle, kiss, or look at the piercing someone is flaunting. If the answer is not what you wanted don't act snubbed. Be Polite, keep your balance, there may be a later. Etiquette: It's a small world. The rule of thumb is that parties are not mentionable publicly. Of course, we all want to express our joy and pleasures. If you do, please be discreet. Be aware of what you say and do. If you are in doubt whether the party is mentionable, first ask the staff. It is customary to ask first before mentioning a specific individual or situation. Especially do not post to any forum in a way that identifies someone else without permission. Even mentioning someone in email without that person's permission can be considered a violation of etiquette. It is customary to email copies of anything you post to all people referenced in advance, particularly if you are unsure of anything. At the Klub: Relax, flirt, be yourself, be open and friendly; ask questions about the Lifestyle, various styles, comfort levels, interests; or the Internet if you want to make conversation (try not to be a geek); listen to what others have to say. Some feel if they can't have a conversation with you nothing else will happen either. Bring your sense of humor: Typically, many of our thoughts, fantasies, and ideas are concealed. One of the best things about the Lifestyle is that you can openly express your admiring thoughts, feelings, and sexuality. Share your energy, flirt, speak sincerely, and make eye contact! Don't be afraid to smile. Joining In: Do we have to participate in swinging? Definitely Not!!! We are glad to have you just attend the Klub. If you just love to dance, see sexy and flirting adults play, are tolerant of others, and can be friendly when someone says no thanks, you are welcome. We are a No-Pressure, Sex Positive, Private Adult Social Dance Club. Klub Layden is great place to come to if you are new to the Lifestyle - so don't be shy!! If in doubt check. Even if it looks like they are free-for-alls. What might look to you like lots of folks joining in pleasure or otherwise play maybe some signaling going on to those that join in. The players may look casual when in fact play may be pre-arranged. If it is not a designated free form orgy room - Join in only if beckoned, or if asked and accepted. If a group room is too crowded, circulate and return later, or stand back. Be tolerant of things you didn't expect, even if you've heard of such things and wished for years you could actually see it. Yes, you may be taken aback by what you didn't expect and suddenly encounter. The Lifestyle is very much about gaining perspective and expanding horizons. Even if you are fascinated, try not to gawk at stuff you have never personally encountered. Clean up after yourself: Keep things fresh as possible. Straighten up a play area/bed when you are done. Pick up your toys, condoms, tissues, etc., so someone else can use the area. Carry a towel it may come in handy, and leave shower areas tidy. After the Party: You can and should talk to the staff during the party or, possibly afterwards to ask unanswered questions, and follow up in any ways you like. If you felt comfortable or uncomfortable about anything at all at the party, talking to the staff afterwards is an excellent idea! Klub Layden genuinely wants feedback so they can create enjoyable parties. They want to help their guests feel safe, comfortable, and at liberty to enjoy themselves.