It is said "The lifestyle will make a good relationship wonderful and is no place for an unhealthy relationship."

Constant & Fundamental Rules include:

Safe and Consensual: 
At Klub Layden we operate beneath this statement. Everything at all times must be safe and consensual between consenting adults.

No means No! 
No matter how it is said, or implied. If in question, ask. Stop immediately. Go no further. Communication, and respect for people's limitations. No does not mean maybe, does not mean slow down it means absolutely stop right now.

Do no harm! 
This simple phrase says it all. Common Courtesy is the rule. If you choose to party with others, or not, please do not forget the club policies. Do not ever attempt to bring harm to any member, guest of staff member inside or on Klub Premises. We will handle the situations if they ever arise.

About Rejection:
It is tough but if it happens to you please accept it and move on. Not everyone is everyone else's cup of tea. What you may find attractive another may not. So keep dignity about yourself and politely remove yourself from the situation.

The Lifestyle is self-regulated:
We are each and all responsible for guests, our club, and ourselves. The more experienced you become the more you will be able to recognize if something is amiss. If you are bothered by something or have a question find a staff member to check it out, explain it to you, or make changes. It’s ok to ask. If a corrective action needs to be taken, the staff will convey that in an appropriate manner. Never be afraid to approach one of them. They are there for that reason.

Customs and Costumes:
Clothes and gender usually don't tell you anything about a person's interests, predilections, or experience levels. Unless the party rules specify a dress code, people generally dress however they like to dress. Some people use clothes as flags to signal their interests, but in practice many players that incorporate clothing and costumes into their lifestyle do so as a separate pleasure for themselves.

Touching:
In some circles, hugging a stranger hello and goodbye is normal watch and see if someone goes to hug you or greet you with a kiss. Friendly touch and hugging way is usually welcomed in Swinging/Lifestyles circles.  Just because a woman (or man) is standing nude or partially clothed next to you, getting a soda and smiling, does not make it ok to stroke the person's ass or breast! Ask, and you will often get an indication that it's ok to hug, stoke, fondle, kiss, or look at the piercing someone is flaunting. If the answer is not what you wanted don't act snubbed. Be Polite, keep your balance, there may be a later.

Etiquette:
It's a small world. The rule of thumb is that parties are not mentionable publicly. Of course, we all want to express our joy and pleasures. If you do, please be discreet. Be aware of what you say and do. If you are in doubt whether the party is mentionable, first ask the staff. It is customary to ask first before mentioning a specific individual or situation. Especially do not post to any forum in a way that identifies someone else without permission. Even mentioning someone in email without that person's permission can be considered a violation of etiquette. It is customary to email copies of anything you post to all people referenced in advance, particularly if you are unsure of anything.

At the Klub:
Relax, flirt, be yourself, be open and friendly; ask questions about the Lifestyle, various styles, comfort levels, interests; or the Internet if you want to make conversation (try not to be a geek); listen to what others have to say. Some feel if they can't have a conversation with you nothing else will happen either.

Bring your sense of humor:
Typically, many of our thoughts, fantasies, and ideas are concealed. One of the best things about the Lifestyle is that you can openly express your admiring thoughts, feelings, and sexuality. Share your energy, flirt, speak sincerely, and make eye contact! Don't be afraid to smile.

Joining In:

Do we have to participate in swinging? Definitely Not!!! We are glad to have you just attend the Klub. If you just love to dance, see sexy and flirting adults play, are tolerant of others, and can be friendly when someone says no thanks, you are welcome. We are a No-Pressure, Sex Positive, Private Adult Social Dance Club. Klub Layden is great place to come to if you are new to the Lifestyle - so don't be shy!!

If in doubt check. Even if it looks like they are free-for-alls. What might look to you like lots of folks joining in pleasure or otherwise play maybe some signaling going on to those that join in. The players may look casual when in fact play may be pre-arranged. If it is not a designated free form orgy room - Join in only if beckoned, or if asked and accepted. If a group room is too crowded, circulate and return later, or stand back.

Be tolerant of things you didn't expect, even if you've heard of such things and wished for years you could actually see it. Yes, you may be taken aback by what you didn't expect and suddenly encounter. The Lifestyle is very much about gaining perspective and expanding horizons. Even if you are fascinated, try not to gawk at stuff you have never personally encountered.

Klub Layden genuinely wants feedback so they can create enjoyable parties. They want to help their guests feel safe, comfortable, and at liberty to enjoy themselves.